Sunday, 24 April 2016

Lifestyle | The Mid 20's Crisis: Why Moving Away Won't Solve Your Problems

I think we're all guilty of it at some point.

Life starts going not quite how you want it to, so you start thinking about setting up your shiny new life somewhere else.

"Fuck it, I'll just live a simple life in rural Italy somewhere!"... or "Thailand seems nice?? I'll get a job in a tiki beach shack!" 

Or maybe your Google search history might look a little something like: 'best places to live in the UK' 'happiest UK cities' 'best cities to move to' etc etc..

But lets be honest - it's never going to work out. Running away because you're not happy with your life won't make your new home the sweet easy ride you want it to be. In fact, you'll probably miss home and think shit! Everything's the same...but now I have no friends here and I'm pretty sure my creepy neighbour is taking my nickers off the washing line!...

Don't get me wrong I think moving to a new city is a great idea for work, family, or for any valid reasons that you might have, but you must get your shit together first...and find a way to be happy in yourself first.

So what can you do when you get these thoughts of sodding off to a "better life"?

I think the first thing to remember is that you will feel better. Generally, it's just a temporary thing based on current situations. So take a breather and remember this isn't permanent.

The next thing to do is assess what's making you unhappy.

Is it your relationship?
Your job?
The people you hang out with?
Is the lifestyle you're living not really fulfilling you enough?
Are you not comfortable with the person you're becoming?
Or have you made some pretty bad decisions that you're just thinking shit! pass me a passport and a miniature bailey's!? ....

Take a moment to think about it, and then think about what you could do to solve your issues. Cos there's always a way. Maybe think about a career change, going to do more things you're interested in to meet better people, or thinking about why you've made some bad choices.

It may require you to make some serious effort, a change in circumstance, but to see a change you really do have to take action rather than sitting back and letting your life unfold in a way you're not entirely happy with.

I know I'm a Yorkshire girl born and bred, I love living in Leeds and the people, but these better life thoughts do creep in sometimes...but I know deep down it's not the answer and that you just have to work hard on your life and yourself - then eventually things will get better. :) 

Thanks for reading,

Gabby xoxo



  1. couldn't agree more, it's so easy to imagine the grass is greener elsewhere. i've had a few moments in the last six months but i think i'm finally feeling happy where i am once again. fab post gabby! x

    1. Thanks so much Leanne - so glad you liked & it makes me feel more normal knowing you feel the same sometimes!.

      Really glad to hear you're feeling happier too - deffo need to see you soon! xoxo


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